Wow ! so fast, we are now stepping into the month of October.
For many people that I know, especially those who works in sales line, October is an important month, because it marks the beginning of the last quarter.
And why last quarter is important? because normally that's the time where they will really run all the way until end of the year to clear their yearly target, year end quota or even run to get their promotion, bonus, awards, etc.
If I can give an analogy of a running competition, normally the last quarter is like a final lap, which is going to determine whether you will end the race victoriously as a winner or not. It is the Final Sprint.
Whether you have closed a lot of cases in the past 9 months, or whether you didn't manage to close any cases, it doesn't really matter. Because in race, it's not about how you start, it's about how you end it. And that's what this final sprint is all about.
One of the things that you need in order to excel in this final sprint is ATTITUDE.
Your courage and belief in yourself will be tested many, many times in your life. Especially in this Final Sprint.
How you will react is up to you.
Do you believe in yourself?
Have you been able to overcome adversity before?
Do you have the necessary tools to help you through the difficulty?
If you answered to all the above questions is YES, then I am happy because then I know that you can use that tools to get up - each time you get knocked down. Most of us have been knocked hard, more than once, more than twice. With the proper tools, we didn't let it destroy our life or our image and confident of ourselves. We thought, "Okay, there is some lesson here I need to learn", and moved forward again
For those who couldn't pick themselves back up - there's hope. You can do it too - it will take time, commitment, action and determination. You will need to surround yourself with tools that can help you break through your barriers. Like a mechanic, we all need tools to help us refine our skills for dealing with disappointment, hurt, anger and grief.
Tools can come in many forms:
1. Written material, like nice inspiration quote or article
2. Recorded material, such as motivation songs, video, etc
3. Images, for example, a photo of your loved ones, a photo of your past achievement, a picture of your future goals, your dream book, vision board, and many more.
4. And of course, people. Some one who can give you encouragement when you are down, some one who can listen and understand you, or it could even be someone who can nag and nag and nag at you. It could be your family member, your friends, your colleague, your team mates, your boss, your manager, etc.
Usually you will have to try many, before you find the right combination. But once you do, look out! All of a sudden the light bulb will go off in your head and you will think, "I get it, I understand what I have to do to move forward".
Do something nice for yourself this weekend - take a minute to reflect on what you want to happen in this Final Sprint and then start looking for the tools that will help you complete your plan.
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
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Friday, October 2, 2009
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Make someone happy today !
Why people do volunteer work?
Some people do it because they find something they are passionate about and want to do something good for others, another probably think that they are very fortunate to live the way they do and want to give something back to society. Or it could even be for personal growth, volunteers often say that the experience has made them a better person.
There are number of different reasons we do charity work, bring flowers to a friend in the hospital, or buy a special gift for someone we love when we're out shopping. And one of the reason is because it makes us happy. Sometimes in fact, being kind and considerate to others actually benefits us more than the people we're helping.
Even if our activities initially starts out as a chore or an obligation, it can become a joy to us, as well as to those who benefit from our effort.
The real happiness consists in making others happy.
Have you done anything that makes someone happy today? :)
Well, even if your answer is NO, it's never too late.
Hopefully after reading this, you can start thinking: "Is there something that I can do to make someone happy?" It doesn't have to be big or spectacular. Even a simple message expressing how much you appreciate someone's friendship can be very powerful.
You cannot always have happiness,
but you can always give happiness.
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
Some people do it because they find something they are passionate about and want to do something good for others, another probably think that they are very fortunate to live the way they do and want to give something back to society. Or it could even be for personal growth, volunteers often say that the experience has made them a better person.
There are number of different reasons we do charity work, bring flowers to a friend in the hospital, or buy a special gift for someone we love when we're out shopping. And one of the reason is because it makes us happy. Sometimes in fact, being kind and considerate to others actually benefits us more than the people we're helping.
Even if our activities initially starts out as a chore or an obligation, it can become a joy to us, as well as to those who benefit from our effort.
The real happiness consists in making others happy.
Have you done anything that makes someone happy today? :)
Well, even if your answer is NO, it's never too late.
Hopefully after reading this, you can start thinking: "Is there something that I can do to make someone happy?" It doesn't have to be big or spectacular. Even a simple message expressing how much you appreciate someone's friendship can be very powerful.
You cannot always have happiness,
but you can always give happiness.
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Is your life worth saving ?
A man risked his life by swimming through the high tide to save a young boy being swept out to sea. After the child recovered from the horrible experience, he said to the man, "Thank you for saving my life."
The man looked into the little boy's eyes and said, "That's okay, kid. Just make sure your life was worth saving."
Ask yourself: "Is your life worth saving?"
This is your life. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well.
We only live once. But once is enough if we do it right :)
Live your life to the fullest.
Live it with passion
Live it with dignity
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
The man looked into the little boy's eyes and said, "That's okay, kid. Just make sure your life was worth saving."
Ask yourself: "Is your life worth saving?"
This is your life. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well.
We only live once. But once is enough if we do it right :)
Live your life to the fullest.
Live it with passion
Live it with dignity
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
20 Inspirational Songs
Do you feel like you are lacking of motivation?
Do you feel like you have no energy? no drive? no passion?
Sometimes, when I do feel down or when I'm going through a tough time in my life, One way to help me gain back my energy, motivation and drive is to listen to my collections of Inspirational Songs.
Positive songs can create huge impact to my life, especially if the lyrics is so meaningful.
There are many great inspirational songs out there.
And I thought it will be useful for me to share it with you some of my favorite inspirational songs.
Here it is
20 Inspirational Songs
(in random order)
1. When you believe (Mariah Carey & Whitney Houston)
2. Reach (Gloria Estefan)
3. Power of Dream (Celine Dion)
4. You raise me up (Josh Groban)
5. Go the distance (Michael Bolton)
6. If we hold on together (Diana Ross)
7. One moment in time (Whitney Houston)
8. Hero (Mariah Carey)
9. Wind beneath my wings (Bette Midler)
10. The greatest love of all (Whitney Houston)
11. Voices that care (David Foster & Friends)
12. Do I make you proud (Taylor Hicks)
13. That's what friends are for (Stevie Wonders)
14. I believe I can fly (R. Kelly)
15. Can't take that away (Mariah Carey)
16. I believe (Fantasia)
17. Count on me (Whitney Houston)
18. The Climb (Miley Cyrus)
19. The world's greatest (R. Kelly)
20. I'm your angel (R. Kelly & Celine Dion)
Coming soon, I'll share with you my 20 POWER Songs !
Songs that can make you feel recharged and filled with energy.
In the mean time, feel free to add the list if you have other inspirational songs that wasn't in the list
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
Do you feel like you have no energy? no drive? no passion?
Sometimes, when I do feel down or when I'm going through a tough time in my life, One way to help me gain back my energy, motivation and drive is to listen to my collections of Inspirational Songs.
Positive songs can create huge impact to my life, especially if the lyrics is so meaningful.
There are many great inspirational songs out there.
And I thought it will be useful for me to share it with you some of my favorite inspirational songs.
Here it is
20 Inspirational Songs
(in random order)
1. When you believe (Mariah Carey & Whitney Houston)
2. Reach (Gloria Estefan)
3. Power of Dream (Celine Dion)
4. You raise me up (Josh Groban)
5. Go the distance (Michael Bolton)
6. If we hold on together (Diana Ross)
7. One moment in time (Whitney Houston)
8. Hero (Mariah Carey)
9. Wind beneath my wings (Bette Midler)
10. The greatest love of all (Whitney Houston)
11. Voices that care (David Foster & Friends)
12. Do I make you proud (Taylor Hicks)
13. That's what friends are for (Stevie Wonders)
14. I believe I can fly (R. Kelly)
15. Can't take that away (Mariah Carey)
16. I believe (Fantasia)
17. Count on me (Whitney Houston)
18. The Climb (Miley Cyrus)
19. The world's greatest (R. Kelly)
20. I'm your angel (R. Kelly & Celine Dion)
Coming soon, I'll share with you my 20 POWER Songs !
Songs that can make you feel recharged and filled with energy.
In the mean time, feel free to add the list if you have other inspirational songs that wasn't in the list
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
Friday, August 21, 2009
Blow your baloon
When you first bought a pack of baloon in a supermarket, what did you see?
At first the balloon is flat. You could put it in your pocket or in the middle of a book and no one even know what you are keeping. Sometimes you could hold it in your hands without anybody noticing what you have.
But the moment you blow air into the fat baloon, it becomes impossible for you to put it in the middle of your book like you did earlier! Once you start blowing the balloon, you cannot fold it in your hands as you did before! Everybody around you begins to notice the balloon. They begin to pay attention to its colors and its size.
What can you learn from this analogy?
When you have an idea, initially it may be in your book or on a piece of paper in your hands and no body know about it. But when you start to blow energy and passion into your idea, people begin see it. It also becomes impossible for you, the visionary, to hide the idea.
The air sustains the balloon as long as there is no place for air to escape. Your business also thrives as long as creativity, energy, and your passion is not allowed to escape.
The balloon traps air inside to be able to exhibit its real size and at the same time it takes advantage of the air to move up. The breeze does not often favor the balloon but the balloon still takes advantage of the breeze to dance in the air. You and I know so well that the balloon might be fully blown but it does not move if there is no breeze to carry it.
Many people came to me and told me that they have a lot of ideas to fullfill their dreams, but they all also complain to me saying that they can't do anything because they have no money.
Well, let me tell you, you do not have to start with money.
Start with what's on your mind.
There are people who have ideas and are waiting for money to start. What amazes me is that there are people who have money and are waiting for ideas so that they can invest their money!
Start blowing your baloon, and let people around you see how beautiful it is !
Love,
Merry Riana
www.merryriana.com.sg
At first the balloon is flat. You could put it in your pocket or in the middle of a book and no one even know what you are keeping. Sometimes you could hold it in your hands without anybody noticing what you have.
But the moment you blow air into the fat baloon, it becomes impossible for you to put it in the middle of your book like you did earlier! Once you start blowing the balloon, you cannot fold it in your hands as you did before! Everybody around you begins to notice the balloon. They begin to pay attention to its colors and its size.
What can you learn from this analogy?
When you have an idea, initially it may be in your book or on a piece of paper in your hands and no body know about it. But when you start to blow energy and passion into your idea, people begin see it. It also becomes impossible for you, the visionary, to hide the idea.
The air sustains the balloon as long as there is no place for air to escape. Your business also thrives as long as creativity, energy, and your passion is not allowed to escape.
The balloon traps air inside to be able to exhibit its real size and at the same time it takes advantage of the air to move up. The breeze does not often favor the balloon but the balloon still takes advantage of the breeze to dance in the air. You and I know so well that the balloon might be fully blown but it does not move if there is no breeze to carry it.
Many people came to me and told me that they have a lot of ideas to fullfill their dreams, but they all also complain to me saying that they can't do anything because they have no money.
Well, let me tell you, you do not have to start with money.
Start with what's on your mind.
There are people who have ideas and are waiting for money to start. What amazes me is that there are people who have money and are waiting for ideas so that they can invest their money!
Start blowing your baloon, and let people around you see how beautiful it is !
Love,
Merry Riana
www.merryriana.com.sg
Thursday, August 13, 2009
How to stay Positive
Today I took a cab, and interestingly I saw this motivational poster hanging inside the cab.
I was very impressed. Now days, motivational poster not only can be found in working place, school, office, shopping centre, but even inside the cab can also be found.
I guess, that help us to remain positive at all times, especially in the current situation where is very challenging. The world is having a financial crisis; retrenchment everywhere, people lost their life time savings in the stock market, also not to forget the current pandemic, H1N1 flu.
To stay positive every time, every single day is definitely important.
There are many ways that you can do to keep yourself stay positive. One of the way is to be grateful everyday.
And I can't agree more. In my book, A Gift From A Friend, I wrote that Gratitude is the most forgotten, yet essentially important, emotion in our lives.
Without gratitude, we don’t feel satisfied.
Without gratitude, we feel inadequate.
Without gratitude, we don’t value relationships.
Without gratitude, we take things for granted.
With gratitude, we enjoy life more.
With gratitude, we enjoy ourselves more.
With gratitude, we enjoy relationships more.
With gratitude, we enjoy our possession more.
To have gratitude is to have the highest level of enjoyment within ourselves.
This is my challenge to you right now:
Think about all the positive experiences that have ever happened to you in your lives.
Think about all the material possessions that you own currently.
Think about all the positive relationships that you have ever been involved with.
Think about all the positive qualities you have now.
And then tell me whether you can still feel sad or depressed.
To have gratitude is an essential factor to enjoy this journey of success.
Have you felt grateful today?
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
I was very impressed. Now days, motivational poster not only can be found in working place, school, office, shopping centre, but even inside the cab can also be found.
I guess, that help us to remain positive at all times, especially in the current situation where is very challenging. The world is having a financial crisis; retrenchment everywhere, people lost their life time savings in the stock market, also not to forget the current pandemic, H1N1 flu.
To stay positive every time, every single day is definitely important.
There are many ways that you can do to keep yourself stay positive. One of the way is to be grateful everyday.
“The single greatest thing you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now” ~Oprah Winfrey~
And I can't agree more. In my book, A Gift From A Friend, I wrote that Gratitude is the most forgotten, yet essentially important, emotion in our lives.
Without gratitude, we don’t feel satisfied.
Without gratitude, we feel inadequate.
Without gratitude, we don’t value relationships.
Without gratitude, we take things for granted.
With gratitude, we enjoy life more.
With gratitude, we enjoy ourselves more.
With gratitude, we enjoy relationships more.
With gratitude, we enjoy our possession more.
To have gratitude is to have the highest level of enjoyment within ourselves.
This is my challenge to you right now:
Think about all the positive experiences that have ever happened to you in your lives.
Think about all the material possessions that you own currently.
Think about all the positive relationships that you have ever been involved with.
Think about all the positive qualities you have now.
And then tell me whether you can still feel sad or depressed.
To have gratitude is an essential factor to enjoy this journey of success.
"When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears"
~ Anthony Robbins~
Have you felt grateful today?
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
3 stages of life
Do you know that there are 3 stages of life ?
When we are teenager, we have Time and Energy, but No Money
When we are working adult, we have Money and Energy, but No Time
When we are old, we have Time and Money, but No Energy
Irony isn't it?
I was once experienced before, as teenager, I had a lot of times, and I had huge amount of energy, unfortunately I wasn't able to enjoy many things because I was very much limited by my financial situation.
That's why on my 20th birthday, I made a resolutions for myself:
"To be able to achieve my Financial Freedom before age 30"
Why Financial Freedom?
Because by achieving it, I'll have TIME for me to enjoy the fruits of my hardwork.
Why before age 30?
Because by achieving it, I'll still have the ENERGY for me to have fun in life, and not only that, most importantly my parents will still have the energy to taste of my success together with me.
And I was blessed to be able to accomplished that.
Now, my question to you is: Which stage of life are you in right now?
Well, whatever your answer is, it doesn't matter.
The most important question is what can you do to change it?
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Are you a good boxer ?
Every Tuesday Afternoon, I always spend 1 hour to groom the Elite Force members.
Most of us may think that the most important skill as a boxer is to throw punches to his opponent.
But, is it reallly true? :)
What if this boxer, who is very good in throwing punches, is suddenly punched in the face by his opponent? If this boxer can't take punches well, no matter how good is he in throwing punches, he'll seldom win a match. Because, once he was punched, he'll go down.
And the chance is almost 100% that if you're in a boxing match, you'll get punched once in a while.
Elite Force is the group of outstanding and talented people who are committed to do whatever it takes to achieve their goals. All the members are personally chosen and coach by me.
During the Elite Force Meeting yesterday afternoon, I shared this analogy with them
Do you know what it takes to be a good businessperson?
Interestingly, what it takes to be a good businessperson may be very similar to what it takes to be a good boxer.
Interestingly, what it takes to be a good businessperson may be very similar to what it takes to be a good boxer.
Most of us may think that the most important skill as a boxer is to throw punches to his opponent.
But, is it reallly true? :)
What if this boxer, who is very good in throwing punches, is suddenly punched in the face by his opponent? If this boxer can't take punches well, no matter how good is he in throwing punches, he'll seldom win a match. Because, once he was punched, he'll go down.
And the chance is almost 100% that if you're in a boxing match, you'll get punched once in a while.
So, there are 2 important skills to be a boxer.
The ability to throw punches and the ability to take punches.
The ability to throw punches and the ability to take punches.
Similarly, there are 2 important skills to be a good businessperson.
One is the ability to take massive actions.
Another one is the ability to persevere through failures, to go up again everytime you fall.
One is the ability to take massive actions.
Another one is the ability to persevere through failures, to go up again everytime you fall.
The same thing also applies if you are working in a sales industry.
If you want to be successful, you not only need to master the skill how to close more sales, but in the same time, you also need to be able to take rejection.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
The Climb
I love Motivational Songs.
When I feel like I need energy, I need inspiration, or I need to feel positive, one of the easiest way for me to achieve that is by listening to good songs.
This time, I would like to share with you 1 song that I discovered few weeks back and I love it so much. The lyrics is great, the tune is very easy to catch, and most importantly I find it very meaningful. It's the new song by Miley Cyrus called: "The Climb"
Attached is the lyrics
When I feel like I need energy, I need inspiration, or I need to feel positive, one of the easiest way for me to achieve that is by listening to good songs.
This time, I would like to share with you 1 song that I discovered few weeks back and I love it so much. The lyrics is great, the tune is very easy to catch, and most importantly I find it very meaningful. It's the new song by Miley Cyrus called: "The Climb"
Attached is the lyrics
THE CLIMB
I can almost see it
That dream I am dreaming
But there's a voice inside my head
saying"You'll never reach it"
Every step I'm taking
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking
But I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high
There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb
The struggles I'm facing
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down
But no, I'm not breaking
I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I'm gonna remember most, yeah
Just gotta keep going
And I, I got to be strong
Just keep pushing on'
Cause there's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting
on the other side
It's the climb, yeah!
There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Somebody's gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb, yeah!
Keep on moving, keep climbing
Keep the faith, babyIt's all about,
it's all about the climb
Keep the faith, keep your faith, whoaHope you guys like it :)
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
Monday, July 27, 2009
Inspiration from My Husband
Setting your goal, focusing on the outcome, being clear about what you want in life can make your dreams come true.
There is another key element that comes into play, an element that each and every one of the 'positive thinking' books has in common: The first step in all of them is to write down your goal.
You probably heard her name, Suze Orman, financial wizard, author of the number one New York Times bestseller, The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom, and a frequent guest on Oprah Winfrey Show, tells how she started out.
She got a job at Merrill Lynch and was terrified she would not be able to meet her sales quota.
The most she had ever made up until then was $400 a month as a waitress.
She said, 'I created what I wanted for myself first on paper. Every morning before I went to work, I would write over and over again: I am young, powerful, and successful, producing at least $10,000 a month.'
And guess what ?? it came true. And writing down her new truth helped make it materialize. Even after surpassing that target figure, she continued to carry the saying around with her.
My own inspiration came from my husband, who came to me one day with anamused expression and a piece of paper in his hand.
He said, 'I found this list from years ago when I was cleaning our room. I don't know how, but everything on this list came true, and I forgot Iwrote it.'
Among other things, he had studied Mandarin in China (both my husband & I were in Beijing for 3 months in 2002), established his own business (our current business in the Financial Services industry), got married with me :) and become a millionaire (we achieved this together in 2006) - all without being conscious of checking off items on the forgotten list.
My husband's experience made me think. I noticed the same phenomenon happening in my own life. Have you had similar experience too? :)
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
www.facebook.com./merry.riana
There is another key element that comes into play, an element that each and every one of the 'positive thinking' books has in common: The first step in all of them is to write down your goal.
You probably heard her name, Suze Orman, financial wizard, author of the number one New York Times bestseller, The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom, and a frequent guest on Oprah Winfrey Show, tells how she started out.
She got a job at Merrill Lynch and was terrified she would not be able to meet her sales quota.
The most she had ever made up until then was $400 a month as a waitress.
She said, 'I created what I wanted for myself first on paper. Every morning before I went to work, I would write over and over again: I am young, powerful, and successful, producing at least $10,000 a month.'
And guess what ?? it came true. And writing down her new truth helped make it materialize. Even after surpassing that target figure, she continued to carry the saying around with her.
My own inspiration came from my husband, who came to me one day with anamused expression and a piece of paper in his hand.
He said, 'I found this list from years ago when I was cleaning our room. I don't know how, but everything on this list came true, and I forgot Iwrote it.'
Among other things, he had studied Mandarin in China (both my husband & I were in Beijing for 3 months in 2002), established his own business (our current business in the Financial Services industry), got married with me :) and become a millionaire (we achieved this together in 2006) - all without being conscious of checking off items on the forgotten list.
My husband's experience made me think. I noticed the same phenomenon happening in my own life. Have you had similar experience too? :)
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
www.facebook.com./merry.riana
Sunday, July 26, 2009
Are you on the "Right" path ?
I would like to start by sharing with you this very beautiful poem:
Yes! You know you mustn't quit, but sometimes when your life isn't easy right now or nothing seems to be going according to what you want, you might be wondering and ask yourself whether am I doing the right thing in my life? am I in the right path? and how do I know whether I am in the right path?
I might not have the exact answer for you, but I can give you my opinion.
As yourself this question: "How many right path do you think is available out there?"
Well, my question probably make you think for a while. Why?
Simply because a lot of people normally have the assumption that there is only one 'right' path to walk. And if we believe there is only one 'right' path, then we are also assuming that there are many 'wrong' path too. Given these odds, there is more likely that most people are on one of those 'wrong' path, including us. Seems like bad news isn't it??
Well, Fortunately, that is not right. The truth is everything in your life is unfolding in perfect order. Or in another word, everything is on schedule. Any 'wrongness' you see in your current path doesn't make the path intrinsically wrong. It's so-called wrongness only comes from your expectations about what 'should' be happening or unfolding on your path instead of what actually IS happening.
Even the 'right' road-to-happiness has it's obstacles.
So, believe me when I said that where you are now is perfect. Because this is where you are supposed to be. You are on your path now. Whatever bad situation that is happening to you right now, don't see it as troubled. Just let it go and let go of the attachment to how things 'should' be. As you become more trusting of life, you relax into it more and resist it less.
Stop demanding that things go a certain way and have them be the way they are. Things will work out. In fact, things are working out now. To help you feel better, always believe that things are happening FOR us rather than TO us. This means that no matter how painful or uncomfortable things may be, it is all there for our growth and edification.
If not because of the financial crisis and unstable political situation back in Jakarta in 1998, I wouldn't be in Singapore
If I came from a very well to do family, I woudn't have so BIG drive and motivation to achieve the current success that I achieved today.
If 'X' company never reject my scholarship application back then in my 2nd year in University, I would never start my entrepreneurship journey (because I have to served bond working few years in that 'X' company, and probably by now I will still be a normal employee)
If I didn't loss almost all my savings in the stock market, I wouldn't even try to go to sales and make my first million from there.
There were many unfortunate things happened to my life. But I know that everything happen for a reason and those things happened FOR me.
Sometimes the road gets rough, but don't give up. You've got to keep on moving. Ask yourself: "What can I learn and discover from this situation", and ask "how can I move forward in the most positive way."
I would like to end this by writing the remaining poem that I shared with you earlier
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low, and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Yes! You know you mustn't quit, but sometimes when your life isn't easy right now or nothing seems to be going according to what you want, you might be wondering and ask yourself whether am I doing the right thing in my life? am I in the right path? and how do I know whether I am in the right path?
I might not have the exact answer for you, but I can give you my opinion.
As yourself this question: "How many right path do you think is available out there?"
Well, my question probably make you think for a while. Why?
Simply because a lot of people normally have the assumption that there is only one 'right' path to walk. And if we believe there is only one 'right' path, then we are also assuming that there are many 'wrong' path too. Given these odds, there is more likely that most people are on one of those 'wrong' path, including us. Seems like bad news isn't it??
Well, Fortunately, that is not right. The truth is everything in your life is unfolding in perfect order. Or in another word, everything is on schedule. Any 'wrongness' you see in your current path doesn't make the path intrinsically wrong. It's so-called wrongness only comes from your expectations about what 'should' be happening or unfolding on your path instead of what actually IS happening.
Even the 'right' road-to-happiness has it's obstacles.
So, believe me when I said that where you are now is perfect. Because this is where you are supposed to be. You are on your path now. Whatever bad situation that is happening to you right now, don't see it as troubled. Just let it go and let go of the attachment to how things 'should' be. As you become more trusting of life, you relax into it more and resist it less.
Stop demanding that things go a certain way and have them be the way they are. Things will work out. In fact, things are working out now. To help you feel better, always believe that things are happening FOR us rather than TO us. This means that no matter how painful or uncomfortable things may be, it is all there for our growth and edification.
If not because of the financial crisis and unstable political situation back in Jakarta in 1998, I wouldn't be in Singapore
If I came from a very well to do family, I woudn't have so BIG drive and motivation to achieve the current success that I achieved today.
If 'X' company never reject my scholarship application back then in my 2nd year in University, I would never start my entrepreneurship journey (because I have to served bond working few years in that 'X' company, and probably by now I will still be a normal employee)
If I didn't loss almost all my savings in the stock market, I wouldn't even try to go to sales and make my first million from there.
There were many unfortunate things happened to my life. But I know that everything happen for a reason and those things happened FOR me.
Sometimes the road gets rough, but don't give up. You've got to keep on moving. Ask yourself: "What can I learn and discover from this situation", and ask "how can I move forward in the most positive way."
I would like to end this by writing the remaining poem that I shared with you earlier
Love,Life is queer with it's twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worse, That you must not quit.
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Follow your heart
Many time in my seminars, or through my website, people come and ask me for advice.
One guy told me that he has been considering to go into sales for many years and he knew and believed that he can do well and achieve his success by doing it, but people perception about salesman is not very good, therefore until now he still hesitate to do it.
Another lady emailed me and shared with me that she only have 'O' Level (= Secondary School) Certificate and she has this big dream that one day she will be a very successful businesswomen, but sometimes she also feel very inferior and no confidence because she felt that if people know that she only has 'O' level certificate, they will look down on her.
Sadly, in life sometimes we made certain decision not really based on what we believe in, but based on what other people think. And today I would like to share with you this interesting story:
A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, ‘Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? ‘Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them.
Later, an old man saw it and commented, ‘The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?’ Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, ‘How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.’ The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, ‘Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.’ Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left.
Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
When I first started my entrepreneurship journey 7 years ago, some of my close friends thought that I was crazy and too brave.
When I first do sales in the beginning of my career, a lot of people thought that I wouldn't be able to make it
When I want to write my own book "A Gift From A Friend" in 2006, some people laughed and said that nobody will want to buy that kind of book.
Well, If I decided to follow what other people said, I would not be able to be a successful entrepreneur, achieve my 1st million before age 26 and become a best-selling author.
If I was too bothered by what others think, I would not be able to be where I am today.
I'm glad I know what I want and go for it.
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
One guy told me that he has been considering to go into sales for many years and he knew and believed that he can do well and achieve his success by doing it, but people perception about salesman is not very good, therefore until now he still hesitate to do it.
Another lady emailed me and shared with me that she only have 'O' Level (= Secondary School) Certificate and she has this big dream that one day she will be a very successful businesswomen, but sometimes she also feel very inferior and no confidence because she felt that if people know that she only has 'O' level certificate, they will look down on her.
Sadly, in life sometimes we made certain decision not really based on what we believe in, but based on what other people think. And today I would like to share with you this interesting story:
A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, ‘Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? ‘Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them.
Later, an old man saw it and commented, ‘The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?’ Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, ‘How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.’ The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, ‘Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.’ Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left.
Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
When I first started my entrepreneurship journey 7 years ago, some of my close friends thought that I was crazy and too brave.
When I first do sales in the beginning of my career, a lot of people thought that I wouldn't be able to make it
When I want to write my own book "A Gift From A Friend" in 2006, some people laughed and said that nobody will want to buy that kind of book.
Well, If I decided to follow what other people said, I would not be able to be a successful entrepreneur, achieve my 1st million before age 26 and become a best-selling author.
If I was too bothered by what others think, I would not be able to be where I am today.
I'm glad I know what I want and go for it.
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
Friday, July 10, 2009
Merry Riana's success habit
72 hrs since I conducted a Goal Setting session for my organization.
Everyone was very motivated and inspired.
I believe some time in your life you've experienced this kind of motivation also, being it through seminar, retreat, book, etc
But, my questions is how long does your motivation last? Are you excited for the moment but feel down or back to normal the next day? Can your motivation endure for a long time?
I actually ended my goal setting session by leaving them with one final message:
And today I want to elaborate more on that.
I believe that successful people are NOT necessarily a more talented group of people compared to the others who are less successful. I also believe that successful people are NOT necessarily a more hard-working group of people either. Successful people achieve success merely because they have better habits compared to others.
Here is a simple example. :)
Some of us have better dental health compared to others.
Everyone was very motivated and inspired.
I believe some time in your life you've experienced this kind of motivation also, being it through seminar, retreat, book, etc
But, my questions is how long does your motivation last? Are you excited for the moment but feel down or back to normal the next day? Can your motivation endure for a long time?
I actually ended my goal setting session by leaving them with one final message:
Motivation is what gets you started.
Habit is what keeps you going.
And today I want to elaborate more on that.
I believe that successful people are NOT necessarily a more talented group of people compared to the others who are less successful. I also believe that successful people are NOT necessarily a more hard-working group of people either. Successful people achieve success merely because they have better habits compared to others.
Here is a simple example. :)
Some of us have better dental health compared to others.
It means some of us succeed in having healthier teeth.
But, does it mean that those of us with healthier teeth are more talented or hard-working?
Have you ever felt that you're talented in brushing your teeth?
Does it feel like hard work to brush your teeth every day? :)
Of course, not.
It feels natural, right?
The reason why some of us 'succeed' in having healthier teeth is because we have better habits (i.e. brush our teeth twice a day, visit the dentist twice a year, etc).
When certain activities become a habit to us, we don't need any talent to do it again and again, and we also don't feel like its hard work.
CONCLUSION
When you want to model a particular successful people to also achieve what she has achieved previously, you can just simply get to know more of her Success Habits. Then, make it your own.
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Merry Riana's Dream Book
I'm in the midst of preparing for my organization's annual goal setting (6th - 8th July 2009)
I decided to take a break for a while and write my blog instead :)
Let me ask you this question.
How many of us had set a goal or new year's resolution back in January this year?
I bet 8 out of 10 people reading my blog will say yes.
Either is to get more money, be smarter, look prettier, lose weight, get company's award, have boyfriend/girlfriend, travel to exotic countries, read more books, etc. We always do the same thing every year, which is set our goal.
But how many of us have diligently follow our goal closely? or even worse, how many of us still remember what our goals are?
It's July, we're halfway through the year, and this is the perfect time to reassess our goals.
I know it might sound tedious and boring, but if you are really serious about achieving your goals, this is definitely an important step.
To me, goal setting can be very exciting :)
I have so many things that I can share with you on how to make the process of goal setting more fun and more effective. The most important of all is:
Write down your goal
This is a MUST !! If you fail to do this one very simple thing you will fail to achieve your goals. writing your goal is important because by doing so it forces you to visualize your goals. On top of that by externalizing it and put it down on paper it creates a commitment on your part.
To make it more fun, create a DREAM BOOK. I had mine since year 2000, and I'm still updating it even until today.
If you are curious to see how does Merry Riana's Dream Book look like?
well.. here it is....
It's just a simple sketch book, but inside are full of pictures of things that I wanted to have in life, things that I wanted to achieve in life, and many more. On top of that I also write down verses or quotes that means a lot to me through out my journey in pursuing my dream. Every time I open and look at the picture or read what I wrote there, I ALWAYS feel energized and motivated.
That's exactly the purpose of this DREAM BOOK, to give you energy and excite you every time you see it.
Here's another page of my dream book
I pasted that cute little baby picture in year 2007. And I pasted Tom Cruise's daughter Suri because I wanted to have a cute baby :) And you know what? Amazingly, I year after that, I got pregnant and have a little angel in my life, her name is Alvernia.
So you see how powerful it is !!
If you don’t already have one, I strongly encourage you to go out and buy the best, brightest and most appealing sketch book you can find. This dream book can become your planning space, your anchor, your bright ideas holder, your dream catcher, your source of inspiration and your celebration place. Do update it regularly and read it often.
In my next few post, I will give you more tips about how to do your goal setting in more fun and effective ways.
In the mean time, have fun with your dream book ! ;)
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
I decided to take a break for a while and write my blog instead :)
Let me ask you this question.
How many of us had set a goal or new year's resolution back in January this year?
I bet 8 out of 10 people reading my blog will say yes.
Either is to get more money, be smarter, look prettier, lose weight, get company's award, have boyfriend/girlfriend, travel to exotic countries, read more books, etc. We always do the same thing every year, which is set our goal.
But how many of us have diligently follow our goal closely? or even worse, how many of us still remember what our goals are?
It's July, we're halfway through the year, and this is the perfect time to reassess our goals.
I know it might sound tedious and boring, but if you are really serious about achieving your goals, this is definitely an important step.
To me, goal setting can be very exciting :)
I have so many things that I can share with you on how to make the process of goal setting more fun and more effective. The most important of all is:
Write down your goal
This is a MUST !! If you fail to do this one very simple thing you will fail to achieve your goals. writing your goal is important because by doing so it forces you to visualize your goals. On top of that by externalizing it and put it down on paper it creates a commitment on your part.
To make it more fun, create a DREAM BOOK. I had mine since year 2000, and I'm still updating it even until today.
If you are curious to see how does Merry Riana's Dream Book look like?
well.. here it is....
It's just a simple sketch book, but inside are full of pictures of things that I wanted to have in life, things that I wanted to achieve in life, and many more. On top of that I also write down verses or quotes that means a lot to me through out my journey in pursuing my dream. Every time I open and look at the picture or read what I wrote there, I ALWAYS feel energized and motivated.
That's exactly the purpose of this DREAM BOOK, to give you energy and excite you every time you see it.
Here's another page of my dream book
I pasted that cute little baby picture in year 2007. And I pasted Tom Cruise's daughter Suri because I wanted to have a cute baby :) And you know what? Amazingly, I year after that, I got pregnant and have a little angel in my life, her name is Alvernia.
So you see how powerful it is !!
If you don’t already have one, I strongly encourage you to go out and buy the best, brightest and most appealing sketch book you can find. This dream book can become your planning space, your anchor, your bright ideas holder, your dream catcher, your source of inspiration and your celebration place. Do update it regularly and read it often.
In my next few post, I will give you more tips about how to do your goal setting in more fun and effective ways.
In the mean time, have fun with your dream book ! ;)
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
Monday, June 29, 2009
My Best Investment
Today I conducted my last session for the TeleMastery.
TeleMastery is one of the Series of Mastery Training Programme that I teach personally in my organization every week for a period of 6 months.
I ended today session by sharing with them way on how to keep their momentum going.
Do you want to know how? the answer to that is by continuous learning.
Let me share with you this.
Many people have often asked me about investment.
But, actually, for me the most important question does not start with 'what', 'when', or 'how'. The most important question always starts with WHY.
I guess your answer will be similar like mine. I want to invest so that I can grow my resources. Which means, if I invest my money, I want to grow it to more money in the future.
Now, my next question is:
What's your best resources?
Is it your money? Is it your look? Is it your network?
I know that my money, my look or even my friends, can come and go. But, what I know will never be able to be taken away from me is my KNOWLEDGE, SKILL, and EXPERIENCE.
It's what's inside that counts, not what's outside.
So, my best investment is when I invest IN myself.
And I do it regularly.
Last year alone, I spent more than $20,000 in one overseas seminar.
But I know, my investment will bear fruits much more than that.
How about you? :)
How much have you invested in yourself? :)
Remember this:
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
TeleMastery is one of the Series of Mastery Training Programme that I teach personally in my organization every week for a period of 6 months.
I ended today session by sharing with them way on how to keep their momentum going.
Do you want to know how? the answer to that is by continuous learning.
Let me share with you this.
Many people have often asked me about investment.
What is good to invest in?
When should it be invested?
How to invest it?
But, actually, for me the most important question does not start with 'what', 'when', or 'how'. The most important question always starts with WHY.
Why do you want to invest? :)
I guess your answer will be similar like mine. I want to invest so that I can grow my resources. Which means, if I invest my money, I want to grow it to more money in the future.
Now, my next question is:
What's your best resources?
Is it your money? Is it your look? Is it your network?
I know that my money, my look or even my friends, can come and go. But, what I know will never be able to be taken away from me is my KNOWLEDGE, SKILL, and EXPERIENCE.
It's what's inside that counts, not what's outside.
So, my best investment is when I invest IN myself.
And I do it regularly.
Last year alone, I spent more than $20,000 in one overseas seminar.
But I know, my investment will bear fruits much more than that.
How about you? :)
How much have you invested in yourself? :)
Remember this:
Your formal education will make you make a living;
Your personal education will make you a fortune
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
Friday, June 26, 2009
Someone wants you to read this message
This is interesting...
I was initially planning to share with you about my day today, and as I was thinking thru things that I was about to write, suddenly I was reminded about a story that I heard about 2 years ago. A close friend of mine in my organization actually forward this story to me. And strangely, I don't know why I felt that I have to share this on my blog today.
So.. if you happen to read this blog by chance, probably this message is for you.
Carrot, Egg or Coffee Bean?
You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She then pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, Mother?" Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity -- boiling water -- but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of your life.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level?
How do you handle adversity? Are you changed by your surroundings or do you bring life, flavor, to them?
ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
~ Author Unknown ~
Do you believe that everything that happens in life, happens for a reason? Well, I do.
There is definitely a reason why I felt like posting this message today,
and definitely there is a reason why you were led to read this blog.
So, for whoever you are at wherever you are, I just want to leave you with this quote:
Take care and be strong !
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
I was initially planning to share with you about my day today, and as I was thinking thru things that I was about to write, suddenly I was reminded about a story that I heard about 2 years ago. A close friend of mine in my organization actually forward this story to me. And strangely, I don't know why I felt that I have to share this on my blog today.
So.. if you happen to read this blog by chance, probably this message is for you.
Carrot, Egg or Coffee Bean?
You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She then pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, Mother?" Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity -- boiling water -- but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of your life.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level?
How do you handle adversity? Are you changed by your surroundings or do you bring life, flavor, to them?
ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
~ Author Unknown ~
Do you believe that everything that happens in life, happens for a reason? Well, I do.
There is definitely a reason why I felt like posting this message today,
and definitely there is a reason why you were led to read this blog.
So, for whoever you are at wherever you are, I just want to leave you with this quote:
Happiness keeps you Sweet, Trials keep you Strong,
Sorrows keep you Human, Failures keep you Humble,
Success keeps you Glowing,
But only God Keeps You Going!
Take care and be strong !
Love,
Merry Riana
www.MerryRiana.com.sg
www.facebook.com/merry.riana
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
How to get pay raise in this financial crisis ?
I just finished watching "The Office" Season 3. It was hilarious !!
The episode that I watch is about "Negotiation" - there is this one employee (Darryl) who is doing his best to get his pay raise. He listed down all the good reasons why he deserve the raise and really persistence about getting it. On the other hand, the boss (Michael) knew exactly that Darryl wanted to ask for higher salary, therefore he did a research in wikipedia and found 20 tricks about how to win negotiation. And as you've probably guessed, he is using those tricks to withstand Darryl's request for a raise. It was so funny.. :)
I actually searched on youtube to see whether the video is available so that I could show it to you. Bad news is I couldn't find any. But Good news is I found another clip which I found it is equally funny. It is also about an employee who is asking for a pay raise.
After watching the 2 shows, I really felt very fortunate.
Simply because I never have to face the problem of asking for pay increment. I can decide how much I want to earn and I can have control of how much pay rise I want to get since I am doing my own business.
Immediately after I graduated from my university (NTU, Nanyang Technological University) in 2002, I started my very first business. So, actually, until today, I've never had the experience of working as a 9-to-5 employee. Well, except during my Industrial Attachment period, because at that time I had to worked in an engineering company for 6 months, as part of the academic modules that I needed to pass in order to graduate from NTU.
At this moment, I actually owns and manages 3 businesses in different industries:
1) Financial Services
2) Training & Consultancy
3) Non-Profit
But no worries.. !! I am not suggesting you to quit your job and start your own business. If you are reading this blog and working elsewhere, you can be as successful or even more successful than other business owner too. Just continue to be the best that you can be wherever you are !
And if after reading this blog you are so inspired to ask for a pay rise,
well at least I can give you 1 tips from my point of view as an employer.
To me the principle is actually very simple.
As long as you can convince your boss that your value are worth more than what your boss is paying you, and that your future value will be making your boss more money than your financial package cost him/her, I believe your boss will grant your request for the pay increase. :)
But if the above tips doesn't work, well... you might want to try the other method that you just watched in the youtube video... hahahha... *lol*
Wish you best of luck ! May you get what you deserve to get.
Love,
Merry Riana
http://www.merryriana.com.sg/
www.facebook.com/Merry.Riana
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Thank God it's Monday !
I don't know whether you believe me if I said that I never felt having any "Monday Blues" at all.
Yes it is true! or at least I really don't remember having it.
To me personally I love Monday! Why?? simply because it is the start of the week, it is a fresh beginning, a new chapter and no matter how bad my previous week was.. I can always make it a better one today!
Here 5 things that I can suggest to you to make sure that have a FANTASTIC MONDAY ! (or at least you won't have Monday Blues)
1. Use your favorite song as an alarm (use it for Monday only)
You will definitely feel recharge when you wake up in the morning.
For me I like the song "The Power", it's the song in the 90's sang by Snap. Everytime I hear the music, somehow I just feel energized! Very empowering.
2. Wake up earlier than normal day, so that you are not so rushed and you can give yourself more time to prepare the day to be your perfect day.
Trust me, the last thing you want is you wake up late and rush to office with the "just woke up - look"
3. Wear your best clothes.
Amazed your boss, your colleagues, your neighbours with your best look.
For me, I spend more time on Monday to make sure I look good; wear my favorite clothes, (or if I buy a new clothes over the weekend, normally I'll wear it on Monday), get a fabulous make up and hairdo, spray nice perfume, and get ready with a perfect SMILE :) Maybe that's why normally my colleagues & staff always said I look great on Monday! hahahha... *grin*
4. Get yourself busy with activities.
I need to packed my Monday with tons of activities, because I need to get the sense of achievement. Starting from some meetings in the morning, help my mentees during our regular coaching sessions, strategic meeting in the afternoon, giving training in the late afternoon.. and the list goes on. To me, the feeling of "I'm doing something useful today" is very important to set my week right. It is a MUST !
5. Give yourself a reward for going through a Great Day
Finally, you have successfully gone thru the very important day, which is the first day of the week. You definitely deserve some good treat. Get yourself a nice dinner with your loved ones, or chill out with your friends, watch some DVD, anything! as long as it make you feel happy :)
For me, I'm always looking forward to this. My favorite one.. is to end the day with a nice supper with my loving husband and chat about how lucky we are to be able to still enjoy today, and of course we'll also plan on what we want to do for the rest of the week :)
Well, that 5 things that I just told you works for me to make my Monday a
"Merry Monday"
And I'm really curious to know whether it works for you also.
Do drop me a message or leave a comments
In the meantime..
May you have a Terrific Tuesday tomorrow!
Love,
Merry Riana
Yes it is true! or at least I really don't remember having it.
To me personally I love Monday! Why?? simply because it is the start of the week, it is a fresh beginning, a new chapter and no matter how bad my previous week was.. I can always make it a better one today!
Here 5 things that I can suggest to you to make sure that have a FANTASTIC MONDAY ! (or at least you won't have Monday Blues)
1. Use your favorite song as an alarm (use it for Monday only)
You will definitely feel recharge when you wake up in the morning.
For me I like the song "The Power", it's the song in the 90's sang by Snap. Everytime I hear the music, somehow I just feel energized! Very empowering.
2. Wake up earlier than normal day, so that you are not so rushed and you can give yourself more time to prepare the day to be your perfect day.
Trust me, the last thing you want is you wake up late and rush to office with the "just woke up - look"
3. Wear your best clothes.
Amazed your boss, your colleagues, your neighbours with your best look.
For me, I spend more time on Monday to make sure I look good; wear my favorite clothes, (or if I buy a new clothes over the weekend, normally I'll wear it on Monday), get a fabulous make up and hairdo, spray nice perfume, and get ready with a perfect SMILE :) Maybe that's why normally my colleagues & staff always said I look great on Monday! hahahha... *grin*
4. Get yourself busy with activities.
I need to packed my Monday with tons of activities, because I need to get the sense of achievement. Starting from some meetings in the morning, help my mentees during our regular coaching sessions, strategic meeting in the afternoon, giving training in the late afternoon.. and the list goes on. To me, the feeling of "I'm doing something useful today" is very important to set my week right. It is a MUST !
5. Give yourself a reward for going through a Great Day
Finally, you have successfully gone thru the very important day, which is the first day of the week. You definitely deserve some good treat. Get yourself a nice dinner with your loved ones, or chill out with your friends, watch some DVD, anything! as long as it make you feel happy :)
For me, I'm always looking forward to this. My favorite one.. is to end the day with a nice supper with my loving husband and chat about how lucky we are to be able to still enjoy today, and of course we'll also plan on what we want to do for the rest of the week :)
Well, that 5 things that I just told you works for me to make my Monday a
"Merry Monday"
And I'm really curious to know whether it works for you also.
Do drop me a message or leave a comments
In the meantime..
May you have a Terrific Tuesday tomorrow!
Love,
Merry Riana
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